May have given him a ‘jacket’

Dear Pastor,

I am 27 years old and I have two children, one boy and one girl. I know for sure who the father of my daughter is. She is my first child.

But I am not sure of my son's father. This is even though the man I am with accepted him as his child and has never questioned me about him.

After I had my first child, my daughter's father and I had a little disagreement and we stopped talking for about three months.

I got involved with another man. But a month after I had sex with this other man, I got back with my boyfriend (my daughter's father).

After that I missed my period. I have always doubted that my boyfriend is the father of my son.

One day I was talking to his mother and my son was with me, and she just came out with this statement, "So and so doesn't have anything for his father".

I was so shocked but I tried to keep my cool. She never said anything else to me. Maybe it was just a coincidence, but I wondered about it.

I would love to do a DNA test to find out if this man is his father, but I am afraid. Sometimes when I think about it, I cannot sleep. Please tell me what you believe I should do. I will follow your advice.

D.G.

Dear D.G,

I suggest that you allow everything to remain as they are. This man has accepted your son as his own. Don't rock the boat. Your son does not know any other man as his father, except the one you told him is his daddy.

This man has never questioned you about him, so don't do anything that may cause your son to become depressed. Perhaps when he is much older, and he is an adult, to satisfy your own curiosity, a DNA test could be done.

But right now, leave everything alone.

Pastor