Boyfriend cannot stop cheating

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 and I am asking you for help. I have a boyfriend who is 26 and we have been together for the past two and a half years. He is a cheater. I have tried to satisfy him in every way.

I watch 'blue movies' that I borrowed and learnt the different positions. I did them with him and he is still cheating. He has never admitted that he cheats.

I have seen messages from his phone from girls, and instead of telling me that he is sorry, he abuses me. He is telling me that I should not search his phone; I should just do my duty at home.

I told him if he does not stop cheating, I will start cheating too. He told me that I am not a crazy woman to cheat on him.

I got pregnant for him but lost the baby, and I was glad because I am not ready for a child. This man never gets tired of having sex.

I can't encourage even my girlfriend to spend even one night with us because he would want to have sex with her.

My brother's girlfriend was spending a weekend with us and he told me that I should suggest to her that we should have a threesome. I couldn't even mention that to her.

Do you think this man would change? If he wouldn't change, I would leave him. So, give me your opinion.

N.A.

Dear N.A.,

What you are trying to say is that you have gone all out to try to satisfy this man in bed, but the more you give is the more he wants.

He is treating you with disrespect. He will not change. You have to move on and leave him. You haven't said whether you are working; I hope you are.

If you are totally relying on him for support, he would continue to behave as if you are a floor mat.

Give up this man. Even if you have to return to your parents' home, do so. I wish you well.

Pastor