Big man’s wife giving him ‘bun’

Dear Pastor,

I am a 35-year-old man and I do construction work. I am also a good painter, so I get jobs to paint apartments and houses when no construction work is available.

I was doing some work not long ago at an apartment complex in a certain area in Kingston and I saw a man and a woman having sex.

I was there for a while looking at them, but they did not see me.

When they were leaving the premises, I recognised the woman. She is the wife of a very prominent man. That woman works with a well-known company and the guy works with her.

I want to know why a woman who has a job should leave her work in the middle of the day and go with another man, especially a man who works with her.

Sometimes as a work man, I see some strange things. This guy lives in the complex and he has a girlfriend. I know the woman has two children and both of them are in high school.

Pastor, when I see these things, I say to myself that I would not trust women. Her husband is at work and she should be at work. But instead, she is with another man having sex. What do you think about this?

E.L

Dear E.L.,

Yo u should not judge all women or con demn them by the conduct of this one woman. There are good men in this world and there are bad men.

There are women who are morally upright and men who are morally upright. But at the same time, we know that there are immoral men and immoral women.

Something must be very wrong for a woman to leave her workplace and go with a man to his apartment to have sex. It begs these questions: Is this woman sexually unsatisfied? Is her husband not meeting her sexual needs, or is she is she just bad and wicked?

How would she react if her husband kept another woman with her? She would likely hit the roof, so to speak, and threaten the girl who is having the affair with her husband.

T he young man who lives on the com pound is not aware that you saw him having sex with this woman.

You may wish to caution him and tell him that you saw him and the woman in the very act. On the other hand, you could be silent about this matter and say absolutely nothing about it.

I am not telling you what to do. The good book says "He that keepeth his mouth keepeth his life." And sometimes it is better to say nothing. However, the decision is yours.

Pastor